Love Hunger

 

Hmm! Love hunger, oh the millions of people that walk around with full bellies but emaciated within for lack of love. 

Valentine’s Day was some days ago, a day when people celebrate love in different expressions. While I believe it’s appropriate to celebrate love, I could not help but think of the thousands of young ladies out there who paid a dear price ignorantly or perhaps by choice to be a part of it. Relationships that should have been broken were mended for a mere gift, their pride laid on the altar of a dinner, sweet words, a trip, wardrobe shopping, what else could it be? 

Today I want to address the important role male figures play in a girl’s life. I believe it goes deeper than most males realize. I'm not talking about romantic relationships here even though it has its implications. I speak of how it pertains to young single ladies who want to be treated like the princesses they’ve read about.

I speak of a father's love, a brother's protection, an uncle's kind word. In as much as mothers do a great job supplying the emotional energy in the house, fathers, brothers, uncles must wake up. This love goes beyond food, clothing and shelter, goes beyond finances. 

The reason why we see a lot of girls going down the path of lust and destruction is not farfetched. It’s because of a dearly needed love that was never received, never felt, it’s like her grease in life, if it’s not available, she goes in search and becomes vulnerable at the sight of anything that looks like or feels like it.

Some men can be talkers and sleek in their expressions. Promising everything they imagine heaven holds. He fails not to tell her all she day-dreamed to hear.  Tell me, how can you become logical and choosy when you've never known better? There’s no perfect appetiser than hunger.

Fathers you must be deliberate about your daughters regardless how young. Tell her she's beautiful; tell her you love her if possible every day, it builds her conviction. Take her out on dates especially when she becomes an adolescent, buy her gifts at special seasons and randomly and give her a listening ear. It doesn't have to be something expensive. If you can't afford it, take an evening walk with her.   Notice her new hair and pass that comment. Most times it's really not about the activity but the attention you give her. Talk about the boys in her life and tell her of life realities, be as raw as possible. Introduce her to the Almighty Father, let her be drunk in her own father's love and most importantly be the perfect model in the way you treat her mother. 

Girls have literally lost their lives in search for love and still offer themselves on a platter for a one time fling. Is it really worth it?

Young lady, I must say here that the absence of this essential love is no excuse to go searching in the wrong places. If anything, God has made Himself fully available to fill every void if you would let him. I know it hurts and I’m not judging you. I am not coming from a place where I had everything as it should be but where there was a lack, I allowed God to fill and oh! what a great job He keeps doing. 

No man truly respects you for throwing yourself at him. The right kind of love will find you very soon. There's more to life than temporary pleasure. There's more to you. So until love finds you, build yourself into that princess worth crossing the seven seas for.

 

I believe in you.




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